EP 89: The Hidden Power of Rage: The Missing Manifesting Step No One Talks About
Hello, beautiful soul. I want to dive into something that has been a central theme in my work and my life – and that is the importance of connecting with and processing our emotions.
Recently, I had the honor of hosting an in-person event here in Los Angeles to bring in the energy of spring and celebrate the upcoming spring equinox with a wonderful group of women. This event was all about setting intentions for the new season, and planting seeds of possibility, hope, and abundance. We did a variety of exercises, but there was one that truly inspired me, and I want to share it with you today.
We often talk about setting goals, planting seeds, and manifesting our desires – but what is often overlooked is the critical step of healing. Before we can create the space for new growth, we need to make sure we clear away what no longer serves us. This could mean releasing old emotions, healing past wounds, and giving ourselves the time and space to truly feel what we've been suppressing.
The Hidden Costs of Repressed Emotions
I’ve always emphasized that healing isn't just about feeling better in the moment. It's about creating lasting change. Suppressing emotions, pretending everything is fine when it’s not, or avoiding the uncomfortable feelings inside of us – all of this comes with a cost. Our bodies hold onto these emotions. When we suppress them, they don’t disappear – they manifest as stress, anxiety, tension, and even physical ailments like high blood pressure or immune system issues.
Many of us, especially women, have been taught to push through our emotions. We've been told to just "smile and keep going" or that feeling sad, angry, or frustrated is somehow "wrong." I’ve been there too. As a child, I remember being told not to express my anger or sadness – just to stay happy and positive. But deep down, I was carrying emotional pain that didn't simply vanish because I ignored it.
Over time, if we don’t process our emotions, our bodies eventually show signs of stress – and this can manifest as fatigue, illness, or just feeling "off" without really understanding why. You might explode over something small, not realizing that the real issue lies in the unresolved emotions from the past.
How to Begin Releasing Those Emotions
So, how do we begin to address all of this? The first step is awareness. You must get honest with yourself about what emotions you're avoiding. Ask yourself: What’s going on in your life that feels challenging? What emotions are behind that stress, sadness, frustration, or anger?
A great way to start is with free writing. In our spring celebration workshop, I guided participants to write things like, “I’m tired of…” or “I recognize that I’ve outgrown this…” or “I’m frustrated that…”. This type of journaling allows you to express your true feelings without judgment.
From there, you might discover patterns. Are you not setting boundaries? Are you abandoning yourself by not making your needs a priority? This is where the magic happens. By exploring these emotions, we make the unconscious conscious, and that is where transformation starts.
Rage: A Powerful Tool for Women’s Empowerment
One emotion I want to specifically touch on today is rage. For so many women, this is a difficult emotion to connect with. But rage is incredibly powerful and healing when we learn to embody it.
As women, we often feel that anger or rage is something to be ashamed of. We might fear being labeled as “crazy” or “irrational” for expressing these feelings. I know this fear firsthand. Growing up, my father’s anger was a source of chaos, and I grew up associating anger with fear and unpredictability. So, when I started to reconnect with that energy as an adult, it felt incredibly uncomfortable. It took time, but I began to see that anger can be an ally—a tool that helps us reclaim our energy, our clarity, and our power.
One of the exercises I love to incorporate into my retreats is something called swamping. This exercise helps us fully embody an emotion—particularly rage. It involves moving our bodies freely to music, tapping into primal movements, and allowing ourselves to make sounds that help release pent-up energy.
At my spring celebration event, I added an extra element to this exercise: piñatas. Yes, piñatas. We used them as a playful but powerful tool to allow the women to fully express their anger. It was incredible to see how women who were initially resistant to hitting the piñata or yelling found such liberation and relief once they leaned into the exercise.
Why It Works
This exercise is a great reminder that we need to let go of the idea that we can "just be happy" all the time. The truth is, emotions are not good or bad—they’re simply energy. When we allow ourselves to feel all of it, we free up that energy to create more space for the life we want. Think about a child who has a tantrum—they express their anger, cry it out, and then they move on. It's as if nothing happened. That is the beauty of completing the cycle of an emotion. We need to allow ourselves that same freedom as adults.
The Healing Journey
I get it. This isn’t easy work. It’s messy, it’s uncomfortable, and sometimes, it feels overwhelming. But the reward is freedom, clarity, and feeling more in alignment with yourself. Over the past 15 years, I’ve learned that healing emotions is a journey. It’s not something that happens overnight. For some people, it might take time just to feel safe in your body and to experience the full range of emotions. But I promise, it’s worth it.
I know how hard it can be to feel those deep emotions, especially anger. But when you learn to embrace them in a safe environment, they transform into something empowering. Rage can become a tool to help you feel energized, clear, and more connected to your truth.
Wrap Up
If you’re ready to start connecting with your emotions and releasing what’s been holding you back, I invite you to try the swamping exercise. Put on some music (you can use my Swamping Playlist), get moving, and let your body express whatever it needs to. And if you're struggling to create emotional safety for yourself or you feel like you need more guidance, remember that I’m here to support you.
You don’t have to carry these emotions alone. It's time to give yourself permission to feel, to express, and to heal. You are worthy of feeling whole, happy, and at peace.
Sending you so much love, and remember to take a deep breath. You're on the right path.
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